Have you ever obessed about things until you got them ? If yes then thats good. What you may have not realized is that while you were obessing you
were also making plans and taking action to make sure you got what you wanted. Well this is what high power players do 24hours a day but they just conceal
their thoughts until the time is right and to the right people. Your mind no matter what age or races you are should constantly be planning on advancing your
life. If you cannot conceal your thoughts you risk your victories in life cause in a competitive society it's normally cut throat or should I say dog eat dog.
When playing a game of chess do you tell you opponent what you next move is ? NO well don't in the game of life it's not wise to so don't do it. Especially if
your mind is not strong enough fight off the nah sayers or in other words the haters in your life. This people couldn't accomplish something of importance in
their life so they believe in themselves. So they lost fate and push their loser mentality on to whoever is stupid enough to share ideas with them. You got
be a better judge of character. See what they are doing or not doing with their on life. Listen to the way they talk in general conversation is it positive
or negative ? Remember always listen more than you talk and you'll learn more than you can imagine. Don't forget to ask questions to the right people as well.
Learn how to socialize and rub elbows with quality people that you feel are worthy of your time with out be a ass kisser. First off no one likes
and ass kisser neither do you. Its cool for a second or 2 then they become a bore and a irritating. Get use to dealing with them because once you stepped
your game up. Those people will become a frequent in your life and you must learn to deal with them on a case by case basis. Find out what events are
going on in your area and if you have a few dollars go to some events not so close around you to get a taste of whats out there and the many different types
of people out there. Also it give you a chance to develop a new style and character traits you are not yet ready to expose to people who are close to you.
Trust me faking til you make it is not a bad thing. You are basically going through a trial and error phase. The caterpillar is on the ground until it goes
into a cacoon then its free to go anywhere it dam well please and so will you but it will take some work (trial and error stage) to get where you dream of
being all along. If it was easy to be what you wanna be then why do we go through years of college then intern (work with no or little pay) until final
beconsider skilled enough to be called a professional. The only difference is now you are being paid for some of the same work you were already doing.
Books like mine I call'em college courses in the game of life which is the only true game there is. Trial and error stage is like a intern in the game.
Total enlightenment, confident, courage, skilled, and a losing is not an option attitude is a true BOSS PLAYER and a professional in the game of life !
When figuring out what personality traits we want to build on we must be brutality honesty about who we feel we are and how we
portray ourselves when are around others. Do we stand tall and firm or slump over and fidget nervous waiting on others to accept who we are. You know the
type you seen them or its you that soon as someone says they like us or something about we fixiate on it. Always looking to get that postivie affirmation from
someone it almost be that person prime motiviation in life. Or you are that person who do anything for others and they do nothing for you. Figuring if you do
any and everything others might want you to do that they have no other choice but to like you. Sorry but those people will never like you nor will they ever
respect you as a person. Or you maybe the person the bitches and moan about how nobody and nothing around is good enough for them (HATERS) really
deep down they feel like and even know that they ain't shit and don't have nothing to offer. So no matter what you do or say they won't agreed or have any
positive to say about the subject or issue at hand. Some of those haters grew up with someone constantly helping and doing for them that they feel helpless
there own and when that support isn't there they feel helpless and lost so they act out like the babies they are. Independent people irritates them because
they really envy you and wish for indepedence but feel like its out of there reach. And then some are just plan old nothing ass motherfuckers too lazy too
scratch their own ass. Stay away from them I will say it again STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM THEM if you truely love yourself and valve your time.
Some personality traits will be easier to change than others that are more deeply embedded in your soul. Don't worry you just
work harder at but its well worth the effort trust me. If you don't like what you see in the mirror you can always alter you appearence . You can lose weight
or gain weight. You can grow or cut hair. You can whitening your smile or straighten your teeth. You can even change the color of your eyes. You can
lighten or darken your skin. Get tattoos or piercing. Or just simple change your waredrobe that can work wonders for your attitude and image. Your
apperance can attract or repel people around. So when putting your outter image together you must be very calculating. Thats why its best to get you
clothing game together after you have a solid idea of what the new your will be like inside then outside. Remember a Boss Player should make a statement
with his clothes and his mind. Don't be afraid of color too many people stick with dark clothes thats the easy way out. Get a good platonic girlfriend to go
shopping with you but if she doesn't wear banging ass outfits then don't ask her. One of the best ways is meet a women that you are attractive too but don't
try to mack her you're not ready yet. But befriend her and ask for her help women love dressing a man. Ask her question about why she selected certain
articles of clothing you'll be surprise at how much you learn from her. Get outfits for different occassions going out, laid back casual, and even around the
house clothes. You'll wanna look good even if someone comes over late night for that folks shit you know. Learn about colognes from women this is valuable
infomation. Most guys fall apart on the grooming and apperance of a Boss Player. Last but not forget the shoes you gotta step your shoes game up bust it
kick and a nice outfit don't mix. You'll be laugh of the scene immediately trust I witness this first happening to friends of mines that wouldn't listen. It's like
a Lexus sitting on hupcaps you don't wanna drive it because of the hubcap. This is the world we live in I didn't create it but I learn to make the best out of the
cards I was dealt. So be aware of your shoes game this goes for women as well as men. You goal as far as appearence goes is to turn heads bottom line
from the outfit scheme to the smell. Even if you not looking to hook up with anyone you want them to be looking to hook up with you. Everyone loves a winner
and a winner can have anything he wants even if he don't want it. Winners have that glow and others see it and want it think if they hang around some will
rub of on to them. But they can't have it cause it yours all yours and yours only to do with it as you please. Never give your glow away meaning allow someone
to steal that spark you got going on so stay true to you and only you. When you don't stay under your own light then your light will begin to go out.
Are you a young couple thinking about moving in together ? Or better yet are you thinking about having children and getting married soon ? Then read on my friends. First think back a few years ago or just back to when you was single. Did you have different goals when you were single or just younger ? What happen to them ? Did they change after you was in a relationship ? If the answer is yes then why ? Did you tell yourself that you would get married at a later age ? And that you would have children when you were more stable financially ?
So now you in a relationship and in a state of utopia things couldn't be better you say ? Word to the wise pump your brakes and pump them hard. You don't have to break up or anything like that. I would strongly suggest that you continue or start pursuing or goals with a passion before all the bills pile up and before you enjoyed those adventures with your friends like a trip to Vegas or Brazil or some shit like that.
When you don't a chance to make waves while you solo then once you do commit yourself to relationship long term or have kids. Your chances of accomplishing those goals or adventures become bleek. And you will start to regret nothing taking charge of your life. Honestly sometimes getting in a commit relationship quick or just moving too fast is a cop out. Some folks are scared to take on life by themselves and they never find out what they are truely made of and their character suffer. Some are really needy and codependent there for become extra weight in a relationship. Long story short live a full life before, during and even after a serious commited relationship.
